I struggle with having a positive mindset.
“I can’t do it.”
“I won’t amount to anything.”
“What’s the point?”
“I’m a failure.”
“Why bother trying?”
Need I go on?
I’m sure a lot of us experience this every now and then.
It all starts with a single thought and before you know it, it becomes a big heaping mess of negativity. I tend to cause my own anxieties, doubts, and obsessive worrying. I always thought it was inevitable to break out of the cycle of constantly coming up with fictional scenarios that are blown way out of proportion when they are merely just a fiction of my imagination.
All that negativity can build up inside you and can hold you back from living your life. You’ll be missing some great opportunities that may arise that can probably change for life for the better.
But there are ways to change that. Oh yes. Yes, there is my friend.
What triggers your negative thinking?
If you find yourself thinking negatively, stop and trace it back to the source. By being able to pinpoint what exactly is causing your negative thinking, you can better diffuse the situation and focus on happy thoughts.
Find something that good or helpful to overcome your negative thoughts. Ask yourself questions.
“What can I learn from this experience?”
“What can I do differently next time?”
Experience it. Learn from it. Grow from it. Move on.
Don’t put so much thought into what you say or do.
Constantly worrying about what others say or what you say to others can be mentally draining. It’s easy to fall into an endless cycle of analyzing everything people say. It’s also mentally debilitating when you have to constantly be selective with your words or actions in the hopes of not offending them or giving them the wrong impression of you.
Whenever we violate this moral code that society shoves down our throat, we’re expected to abide by said code. When we don’t, we feel embarrassed, guilty, and ashamed.
More likely than not, people are more understanding than judgmental. In all honesty, people are pretty indifferent with what you say or do.
You know, don’t go yelling obscenities in a church while waving your undies in the air. Just have common sense you know.
Stop comparing yourself to others.
I’ve preached this many times. A lot of our insecurities and negative thinking stem from comparing ourselves to others, specifically other’s success. This is the perfect breeding ground for bad feelings, jealousy, and unnecessary anxiety.
Avoid situations that cause you to feel this way or compare to others and focus on yourself and what makes you happy. Surround yourself with people who support you and bring out the best in you.
This is your life. Its unique and you’re successful in your own unique way.
Don’t sweat the small stuff.
The small stuff is…well small. They’re insignificant. There’s no need to amplify something when it’s not a problem to begin with.
I read a book back in college that’s literally called Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff by Richard Carlson. He gives you simple ways to simplify your way of thinking and exert your energy into achieving your goals. This self-help book is very inspiring and I highly recommend you check it out. He has a whole line of self-help books if you’re curious about checking those out as well.
Say something positive about yourself every time you find yourself thinking negatively. You can even start the day by saying something positive or even writing it down in a journal. Say it in the present tense and make yourself believe it’s true. Starting off the day with a positive mindset sets the day for success.
You can say things like:
“I have the power to create change.”
“I feel joy and content at this moment right now.”
“I expect to be successful in all of my endeavors. Success is my natural state.”
For more positive affirmations, I found this amazing article for Positive Affirmations: 101 Life-Changing Thoughts to Practice Daily.
Another interesting thing that I found in this article is that practicing positive thought patterns is shown to change the structure and function of our brains! Isn’t that crazy? Or am I just nerding out cause I think that’s fascinating? But yeah, check out that article.
If you want to know ways to radiate positivity to others, check out my recent blog post → How to Radiate Positivity & Happiness in Your Life
For me, it’s a work in progress. I know I’m still gonna have those negative thoughts here and there but I’ll be better prepared when they do. And you will too.
Until next time, peace Fam!